For many years I had what was truly an enviable life: I was married to a successful dentist and had a large, hilltop home in Calabasas, California, where we lived with our three beautiful sons who were—and are—the lights of my life. And then, 10 years ago, when I was 47, everything changed.My relationship with my husband began to deteriorate, and I discovered he had a girlfriend. We filed for divorce, and I ended up losing my marriage and our home. It was the darkest time of my life. Every day, I went through the motions: I went to work as an executive, made dinner, and went to bed. But I felt like an empty shell of a person.This went on for a while, until I woke up one day, tired of who I was. I looked in the mirror and saw someone who was overweight and frumpy. I didn't even recognize myself. It was at that moment that I realized I had to make a change.(Get fit at home! For dozens of 10- to 20-minute routines you can do in your living room, check out Salty Cat … [Read more...] about I Was A 47-Year-Old Overweight Mom When I Became An Olympic Weightlifter—Here’s How The Sport Changed My Life
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After my husband, Gregg, passed away in his sleep 6 years ago, I continued to work and take care of my kids, but inside I was crumbling. My world had been a lovely cliché: Gregg and I had been happily married for 16 years and were raising two healthy children, our 14-year-old daughter and 11-year-old son. But the blood clot that entered his lungs and took his life tore my world apart. Instead of hitting the gym every morning—something I'd loved to do ever since I was a teenager—I lay in bed crying. Panic attacks would hit out of nowhere, causing my heart to pound and pain to fill my chest. Friends and family said I was experiencing post-traumatic stress. I thought I was dying.Photographs by James Elliot BaileyTo deal with the anxiety, I started meditating and joined a book club for widows. I was finally able to talk with others who understood what I was going through. Not only did this validate my emotions and help me start to heal, but participating also gave me a … [Read more...] about What It’s Like To Lose The Love Of Your Life—And To Find Your Way Back From Grief
Right before her 30th birthday, Ann Smith got a warning from her doctor—she had to make some major lifestyle changes to avoid future illness. Once she got healthy, she realized she wanted the same for her family and her community. So she got to work. Just before my 30th birthday, I went to my doctor for a yearly exam. She didn't have good news. She told me that, at 256 pounds, I was obese and prediabetic and had high blood pressure. She said that if I kept up my current lifestyle, I'd get really sick, really fast, and she put me on a 1,200-calorie-a-day diet.(Take back control of your eating—and lose weight in the process—with our 21-Day Challenge!)"I'm just turning 30 and my life is over," I thought. I was crushed. I let myself wallow for a week or so, and then I picked myself up and decided that I wasn't going to spend the rest of my life being miserable, fat, and unhealthy.I started my 1,200-calorie diet plan, and I started to lose weight—but I … [Read more...] about I Wasted The First 30 Years Of My Life Being Obese And Unhappy. Here’s How I Changed Everything.
As a veteran massage therapist of almost two decades, I’d spent most of my time working in small, quiet massage studios offering clients an hour or more of comfort and healing. Although I never bored of my calling, in 2006, when my youngest son started college, I felt a sudden pang of loneliness that many of us experience when our last child leaves the nest. So I did what my own mother had done when her children had grown up; I signed up for college courses—at the ripe age of 48. What I couldn’t know then was that meeting a young woman with kidney disease in a gender studies class and eventually writing a paper about the tragic lack of available organs would set me on a life-changing path. (The 21-day plan in Love Your Age is the life-changing reset every 40+ woman needs!) Lucy [all names have been changed to protect privacy] and I had taken to studying together in the cafeteria. As a woman twice her age, I naturally probed her with questions about her young … [Read more...] about I Donated A Kidney To A Stranger At Age 51 And It Changed The Course Of My Life
Khloé Kardashian revealed more than just her fit and fierce body in the September issue of Women's Health. She also opened up about her highly publicized breakup with her ex-husband, Lamar Odom. "I love Lamar to death," she told the mag exclusively. "He is the love of my life. We had a fantastic marriage. Do I wish he had tried harder? Yes. Do I think that he maybe didn't have the energy to fight because he was fighting so many other things? Yeah."RELATED: Khloé Kardashian Still Considers Caitlyn Jenner Her 'Father Figure'The star made no secret, however, of the fact that her new fit physique was in part motivated by their breakup: "Yeah, it's a revenge body."The 31-year-old mogul explained to Women's Health that her devotion to fitness began as her relationship with Lamar was falling apart. Around 2012, Khloé sought refuge and release from her difficult marriage, which encouraged her to start working out regularly with celebrity … [Read more...] about Khloé Kardashian Says Lamar Odom Was the Love of Her Life
The holidays are great. Crowded AF shopping malls, awkward encounters with your in-laws, and being asked lots of embarrassing questions by relatives you only see a few times a year. What’s not to love?It’s far too easy to get caught up in the stress of the holiday season or to forget what it’s really all about. (Grandma will still love you if the presentation of your green bean casserole is a little sloppy, we promise!)So we decided to take a break from our Thanksgiving preparations to think about everything we’re grateful for, from little moments that brighten our days to the people who’ve impacted us in major ways.We’ve been sharing them on Twitter and Instagram using #GratList and are asking our followers to do the same. It’s never too late to hop on the thankfulness train, so post a photo of your own and spread the warm-fuzzy feelings with us!Check out some of the things our staffers are grateful for: "My 16-month-old son, Eli, is an … [Read more...] about What’s at the Top of Your Gratitude List?
If you could only drink one cheap bottle of wine for the rest of your life, what would it be? Answer: In the horrific, apocalyptic scenario where zombies rule the night and my cellar is limited to two affordable wines, I'd be looking for drinking pleasure and versatility, wines that can be sipped on their own, and with a variety of food. I like my whites juicy, refreshing, fruity, aromatic and crisp, which means it's time to barter canned meat for German Riesling, like St. Urbans Hof Riesling "Bockstein Ockfen Kabinett" ($20). For red, I continue to love the affordable Pinot Noir from A to Z Wineworks ($20). Medium-bodied with red fruit, spice and cedary oak, it's delicious solo and with most meals, including survival rations. … [Read more...] about If you could only drink one cheap bottle of wine for the rest of your life, what would it be?
This article was written by Sunny Megatron and republished with permission for YourTango.Upon meeting a prospective partner in a coffee shop or at the corner bar, they often become “Coffee Shop Hottie” or “Corner Bar Dude” in casual conversation amongst friends. When I first met the love of my life, my best friend and I secretly referred to him as “The Sex Clown.”We met on Fetlife. I was kinky, he was kinky. I saw photos of his most intimate moments and read about his dirtiest fantasies before I even knew him. After we started dating I kept thinking, “Ken is awesome. Dare I say perfect! He’s kind, caring, smart, funny and successful. I get him. I like him a lot both in and out of bed. We’re into many of the same kinks—the spanking, the choking, the fondness for oral and masturbation, but...I just don’t understand the clown thing!”After looking at his … [Read more...] about ‘The Love of My Life Has a Clown Fetish’
When I first got involved in spiritual life I was told that everything animate and inanimate that is within the universe is controlled and owned by the Lord and that one should therefore accept only those things necessary for himself, which are set aside as his quota, and that one should not accept other things knowing well to whom they belong. A living being who lives in the mundane world has four defects: So, a person with these four imperfections cannot deliver perfect knowledge. Since God is all-perfect, there is no possibility of His being subjected to the laws of material nature, which He controls. Yet, both the living entities and inanimate objects are controlled by His potency. When He speaks through His written word in scripture, it is perfect. The elements of nature – earth, water, fire, air, ether, mind, intelligence and ego – all belong to His inferior, material energy, whereas the living being, the organic energy, is His superior energy. Both of these … [Read more...] about The essence of spiritual life
By the time we got the letter, my son was already excited about sixth grade and going to middle school. He had been through a wonderful weeklong orientation, met his teachers, found his locker, and felt like he already fit in. He loved the sixth grade team (so did I) and couldn’t wait to play drums and join the band. Fifth grade had been miserable with his beloved teacher leaving and a bully who made it his daily mission to get my son in trouble. Then we received the letter stating, “all incoming sixth graders must get the pertussis (whooping cough) booster before the start of school.” I found it odd that only the sixth grade was mentioned. There were two other grades there that all interacted in the halls, gym, etc. My first call was to the school nurse. She assured me it was mandatory and necessary due to an outbreak of whooping cough cases in the school system. The outbreak was believed to originate from a child in middle school who had not been vaccinated for … [Read more...] about Vaccination: Will the owner of my body, mind, and soul please stand up?