My husband Chris’s parents are really sweet people. But for some reason, embarrassing and unpleasant things just seem to happen to me when they’re around.The first time Chris and I ever stayed with them, we said we would sleep in separate beds. We were dating at the time and figured they would dig that…but of course Chris snuck into my bed in the middle of the night. We were so busted the next morning when his mom came to wake me up and, bizarrely, her son was snoring away in bed next to me.RELATED: The Scary Way Your In-Laws Affect Your MarriageThen there was the time I spent two hours at their place with my shirt completely unbuttoned. They were too polite to say anything…or maybe they thought it was the latest style? Either way, I nearly died when I later discovered I’d been flashing my lacy red bra at my father-in-law while we discussed the weather.And then, of course, there was the time I forgot Chris’s dad is deathly allergic to peanuts and … [Read more...] about 7 Women Share the Most Effed Up Things That Have Happened at Their In-Laws’ Houses
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During the summer of my 16th year, I spent a month abroad for the first time. I was staying in Germany with a friend, Marko, who had lived with my family in Pennsylvania the summer before as part of an exchange program. Marko and I had become fast friends. We loved the same things—music, sports, girls, and eating. "You must come to Germany," he had written in a letter thanking me for his visit.And so I went.Germany, for this American teenage boy, was close to heaven. First, there was beer and the emboldening feeling of ordering a cold tall glass of it—a fingerhut—at a bar. We were near Cologne, so I quickly developed a taste for Kolsch, the city's famous brew. We would sit in the shadows of the great cathedral and drink into the long evening.Then, as if the beer weren't enough, there was the pornography. Every Friday and Saturday night, one of the five television stations would show soft porn. When you're 16 and tipsy, there is nothing more wonderful than a night … [Read more...] about Insatiable: A Love Story in Three Courses
Do you roll solo in the sack? 30 percent of married or cohabitating people sleep in separate beds, reports a new study from Ryerson University.Among the common reasons couples snooze separately: snoring, issues with kids, and incompatible sleep schedules, says study author Colleen Carney, Ph.D.The two-bed setup doesn't necessarily signal relationship trouble. In fact, Carney says it may be a good idea in certain situations. For example, if your girlfriend’s a night owl and wakes you up every time she comes to bed late, you could wind up in a bad mood the next day—which has been shown to exacerbate relationship issues and your sex life.However, if you're sleeping apart to avoid turmoil, your arrangement could be a symptom of something more serious, Carney says.Before contemplating different beds, try a few tweaks to your sleep habits:Spend a few minutes being the big spoon, then roll to your side of the bed—it’s difficult to get a good night’s sleep … [Read more...] about Is It Normal to Sleep in Separate Beds?
When the weekend rolls around, you’re probably looking forward to some extra hours under the covers. But while shutting off your alarm may feel amazing, you might want to drag yourself out of bed at your normal wakeup time, according to preliminary research presented at SLEEP, the annual meeting of the Associated Professional Sleep Societies suggests.Social jetlag—sleeping in later on the weekends than weekends—may be harmful to your health, researchers from the University of Arizona say.After surveying more than 1,000 adults on their sleep habits, wellbeing, and health history, the researchers discovered that for every additional hour people reported sleeping on weekends compared to weekdays, their risk of heart disease increased by 11 percent.The results held true even after researchers adjusted for sleep length and insomnia symptoms, both of which have been separately linked to heart issues.Every hour spent sleeping was also linked to increases on ratings of … [Read more...] about Why Your Body Really Doesn’t Want You to Sleep In This Weekend
When you find out that a couple sleeps in separate bedrooms, it’s easy to jump to the conclusion that their relationship is in hot water. But in a segment on Good Morning America that aired earlier this week, a man and a woman who have been married for a year and a half explained that having their own bedrooms is part of the reason they’re so happy. Having their own spaces helps them get their Zzz’s and not bother each other with their respective hobbies (in this case, guitar-playing and reading).“I love that idea that we love each other so much that we protect each other’s solitude,” the husband, Nate, told GMA.Relationship expert Michelle Callahan, Ph.D., appeared on the show and gave her thoughts on the idea: "I think this is becoming more common as people have more difficulty sleeping at night,” she said. “They’re just discovering, ‘Look, we love each other all the rest of the day. But when it's actually time to go to … [Read more...] about Do Happy Couples Ever Sleep in Separate Bedrooms?
We spend around a third of our lives asleep, but the average amount of sleep Americans get each night has fallen in recent years. This has been linked to factors such as shift-work, multiple jobs and spending time watching television and using the Internet.1 The importance of getting sufficient, good quality sleep is increasingly recognized, but the scientific study and understanding of sleep is a relatively recent development.1 Sleep has become something of a national concern, in fact, with insufficient sleep now viewed by some as a public health problem.2 There are introductions at the end of some sections to recent developments that have been covered by MNT's news stories. Also look out for links to information about related conditions. The US National Institutes of Health (NIH) give the following guidance for how many hours of sleep are needed each night according to age group:1,3-5 Adults (between the ages of 18 and 64 years) - from 7-9 hours Pregnant women - additional … [Read more...] about How Much Sleep Do I Need? Why Do We Sleep?
This is normal for me. It takes me a little while to a) adapt to the heat when I’m trying to sleep, and b) get used to the white noise of my air conditioning unit running. You see, I’m one of those sleepers who needs total darkness and quietness to hit the right stride; maybe you can relate. The past few days I’ve been a zombie. I’m tired, getting a little more stressed than normal, and am feeling the effects of a lack of sleep. And although I’ll soon adapt to the new conditions, I understand that you might also be struggling with sleep and have been for quite some time. Therefore, I’d like to share some helpful tips for a better night’s sleep so you can get more out of your day. 1. Deal with external factors: With the change in temperature, you may have to deal with the lesser of two evils for the time being. It might be rolling around sweating in the heat for a few nights until your body has adapted, or could mean staying awake to the buzz … [Read more...] about Don’t Be a Sleep Zombie!
And apparently, the quality of a relationship can be measured in the most private of places: the bedroom. But we’re not talking sex, here. Instead, a research team concluded that position and proximity during sleep can indicate how happy two people are within a relationship. Researchers surveyed more that 1,000 people about their sleep position and how happy they were in their relationship. It turned out that the closer they slept together, the happier they were. In fact, 86% of those who slept within one inch of each other reported being in happy relationships, while 94% who slept in constant contact reported a happy relationship. In comparison, people who slept further away from each other were less enthused about the quality of their relationships. Only 66% of respondents who slept at least 30 inches from each other said they were happy. Now, I wouldn’t put too much weight on the results of this study. After all, surveys are rarely reliable, and who really knows what … [Read more...] about How Sleep Position Could Improve the Quality of Your Relationship
Some say we should get 8 hours, 9 hours, or maybe 10. Others say, “no, 7!” Everyone has an opinion on how much sleep we need. The bottom line is that these answers are all right (in different cases). The debate will rage on but there is likely no magic number for any person, at any age. As our needs vary based on our environment, our age, where we live, genetics, and more, we may never identify this elusive “magic number.” One thing we do know for sure is that not enough sleep will certainly have consequences on our brains and bodies, and in some cases those effects can be devastating! Why Our Brains Need Sleep Specific to brain function, lack of sleep has profound implications as many things occur in our brains when we sleep. What follows are just a sampling of the many processes that go on while we are getting our Z’s: Consolidation of memories and learned material. Repair of neurons and blood vessels. Glymphatic clearance – essentially … [Read more...] about 8 Tips for Better Sleep (Because a Tired Brain is a Bad Brain)
Use these steps to create the optimum sleeping environment. There are many elements that you have control over that influence your ability to sleep. This includes things such as the amount of light both natural and artificial, the bedroom temperature, the quality and type of mattress you sleep on, the amount of noise, who you sleep with, what you eat before bedtime and whether or not you or your spouse snore. You obviously can’t control all the causes of insomnia but you can increase your chances for sleep success by taking positive action in creating the best sleeping environment. 1. Darkness matters. Sleep in complete darkness or with as little light as possible. If you get up to use the bathroom in the night and switch on the light, you are actually messing up your sleep cycle since melatonin production is switched off when exposed to light. To prevent this sleep interruption, sleep experts recommend using a very dim … [Read more...] about Is your alarm clock keeping you awake? Seven Sleep Success Steps