I was in the shower the other morning when I heard a tap on the glass. It was my husband, Chris. “Hey, babe! Check out this cool photo I found online!” he said, pressing his phone up against the shower door to show me a drawing of a seagull wearing high-tops and sunglasses.On the one hand, it was a cool picture. On the other, I was shaving my armpits, which isn’t exactly something I’m into doing in front of an audience. He stuck around afterward, alternating between finding new pictures on his phone and asking me to look…while I was in the shower.He’s also busted in while I’m bathing to show me videos, tell me that someone texted me, or just to talk about a random thought he had that apparently couldn’t wait three minutes.RELATED: 7 Things You Say That Unintentionally Scare the Sh*t Out of Your PartnerAnd it’s not just shower sessions that he crashes: Chris has been known to talk to me through the door while I’m trying to … [Read more...] about How To Tell Your Partner You Need Some F*&%ing Space
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Apparently, crazy elaborate gestures of love aren't only found in your favorite Julia Roberts-Richard Gere movie. Seriously, some real-life dudes actually think up super dorky yet sappy sweet ways to show their baes how much they adore them. But don't take our word for it. Check out the grand plans these gentlemen made to show their love to their ladies. Then ask your man why he doesn't do more stuff like this—or just be really thankful he doesn't.The Guy Who Bought His Girlfriend the Most Romantic Date EverLeicester Mercury, a U.K. newspaper. So he pulled out the big guns and hired a professional date planner to create the most romantic walk in the park—ever. He and Tiffany Wright, the owner of the company that personalizes romantic dates for couples, took two months planning the event, according to the newspaper. The date started out as your average cute walk through a London park. But then strangers began handing Isaac's girlfriend, Demi, little love notes … [Read more...] about The Dorky, Corny, and Downright Adorable Things Men Have Done to Say ‘I Love You’
Harmony Sage Lawrence and her fiancé, Sean Parker (not to be confused with the Facebook entrepreneur of the same name), both of whom are 27, met in their freshman year of college. After seven years together, they knew it was time to take things to the next level. The only question was how. Instead of following the traditional man-popping-the-question script, they decided to think outside the box. Here, Harmony explains why she decided to propose—and what she wants any naysayers to know.Sean and I met through friends in 2006, during our first semester at The Evergreen State College in Washington, and the first time we hung out it was actually pretty traumatic.We were supposed to go on a night walk with a mutual friend on the huge chunk of property we lived on at college. The friend who was going to go with us bailed, so Sean and I ended up going together even though we didn't know each other very well. Turns out, we didn’t know the woods very well, either, because … [Read more...] about How—and Why—I Proposed to My Boyfriend
About a year ago, my husband Chris and I made one of the biggest decisions of our lives. We decided to leave our super-awesome (yet incredibly expensive) life in Brooklyn to move to a small beach town in Delaware. Yup, Delaware.We went through a slew of rationalizations before making the move: "We'll be at the beach!" "Our family is nearby!" "We can buy a house!" "We won't have to worry about our baby getting mugged!" They all turned out to be true. We bought a house not far from the beach, we see both of our families on the regular, and our son has only been mugged once (by a kid who swiped one of his treats at a local Easter egg hunt).RELATED: My Mom Told Me Not to Marry My Husband...And Now She Loves HimLife in Delaware is exactly what we expected, minus one crucial factor: I'm not a huge fan. It's not that I don’t like Delaware, per se. I mean, the people here are incredibly nice and friendly in a way you only see in movies. It's just...not NYC.I miss having a million … [Read more...] about Just How Much Should You Sacrifice to Make Your Relationship Work?
If my teacher told me back in the first grade that working a real job meant having to answer emails all day long, I definitely would’ve tried harder at sports. Also, this was 1994, so I probably would’ve said, “What is email?”Just the bane of my existence, that’s all. Yes, email has long been the easiest and most vital way for working adults to communicate with each other, but it’s an incredible time-suck and productivity-killer. Related: The Men’s Health Better Man Project—2,476 Tricks For Being More AwesomeLast year, the software company Adobe surveyed 400 white-collar office workers and found that employees spent an average of 3.2 hours a day checking and answering work emails. My calculator tells me that’s approximately 16 hours a week—2 full work days!—spent endlessly opening and deleting messages that say, “Thanks!”Here are some more fun stats: In a study at Michigan State University, people who … [Read more...] about I Answered Every Single Email Sent to Me For One Day. Here’s How Much Work I Actually Got Done
Kelsey Miller is the author of Big Girl: How I Gave Up Dieting and Got a Life.A few months back, I got a really lovely e-mail from a woman who'd read my book and my column, both of which touch on the topic of intuitive eating. Like me, she'd grappled with body shame and weight fluctuations. She was left feeling hopeless and desperate for another way to live.In reading my work, she'd recognized for the first time that her body was worthy of respect, just as it was. I was floored and honored by this note. She just had one question: How much weight had I lost?My heart sunk. I've spent years of my life spreading the word about intuitive eating, an approach that essentially teaches us lifelong dieters to eat like normal people. Yet most people have trouble grasping this part: It's not about weight."Intuitive eating is different from a diet because it's about using your internal cues to guide your food choices, rather than following external rules," says Christy Harrison, MPH, … [Read more...] about Intuitive Eating Changed My Life—But Don’t Ask Me How Much Weight I Lost
There’s really no limit to the amount of times a person can fall in love in their lifetime. It depends a lot on opportunity, circumstance, and how you personally define "love."But we all remember the first time we actually told someone we loved them.For me, it happened in kindergarten. Her name was Kristin. I gave her a ring and dropped the L-Bomb. Nothing came of it immediately, but I played the slow game. We ended up having a torrid like affair in the fifth grade. We saw each other at Sunday School, mostly.Ultimately, it didn’t work out. She’s now married with children.Since I love hearing these kinds of stories (and I am sure you do too), I asked a few other people to tell me about the first times they said "I love you" in a romantic way. But first, watch this video where real people share how they know they're falling in love.1. "I though this only happened in movies until it happened to me. I was in college, and told my boyfriend while we laid in bed one night … [Read more...] about 7 Sweet and Mortifying Stories of People Saying ‘I Love You’ for the First Time
Question:Answer:Take a soft approach and try not to be judgmental or condescending. Let her know - frequently (and not just when you're having sex) - that she is beautiful, hot, sexy and desirable. Compliment her on her body, including her genitals (vulva), no matter how they look. When she's particularly well groomed you might compliment her extra, by saying something like "I like when you trim/shave this close because it makes it easier for me to really go down on you the way I want to" or similar (in your own words, of course). If she doesn't do much down there, maybe you could suggest that you bathe together and then groom each other down there. You might not want to encourage a drastic shift (like from natural to bare), but slight grooming - even just a little trimming with scissors - can make a significant different for the one performing oral sex.Finally, keep in mind that pubic hair styles are all over the map. There is no one "standard" style in spite of what we sometimes hear … [Read more...] about Q&A: How Do I Get Her to Shave Down There?
It's a moment that you probably know all too well: You've decided to hit the beach at high noon. It's hot, sticky, and your t-shirt has somehow managed to plaster itself to your sweat-drenched skin. Needless to say, your upper body is in dire need of some airing out. The only thing stopping you? The carpet of hair sitting on your chest. You ask yourself the question: Should I wait until I'm back home to do some weed whacking—or do I embrace my body hair, Chewbacca chest and all? When temperatures soar and humidity knows no end, it's a dilemma that plagues many guys who grow excessive amounts of body hair, especially on their chests. Trust us when we say there's nothing professional about showing up to the biggest business conference of the year with hair sprouting up above your collar, looking like you just bathed in your own sweat.Good new is, you don't have to panic and go haywire with your razor just yet. When it comes to your chest hair, there's always a who, what, when, … [Read more...] about How Much Chest Hair Should You Expose?
Consider this: With every sip of coffee – You are ingesting heavy metals. Every time you eat sandwich – You are supporting animal testing. Every time you kiss your child – You are keeping child labour in 3rd world country alive. Do you think that far from the truth? Think again. Believe it or not, a lot of women these days are doing the above actions right now. In fact, you may have done the same a few minutes or a few hours ago. Yes, YOU! Whatever other thing you are doing right now, I implore you to stop, read, and consider this – How much do you know your lipstick? Do you know that by choosing the wrong lippies you are unintentionally harming yourself, the people dearest to you, and even those in far away countries? If the answer to that is no, then you are in danger. You are in danger of committing and supporting things you do not want to be a part of and in danger of putting your own health at risk. But how can an innocent, … [Read more...] about How Much Do You Know Your Lipstick?