There's a reason most New Year's resolutions are doomed to failure: Adopting an all-or-nothing attitude just isn't sustainable.Sure, swearing off sugar for life or vowing to run 4 miles a day sounds mighty virtuous. But for most of us, that kind of dedication just isn't realistic. And you know what? That's OK. Because when it comes to making healthy changes, baby steps are a whole lot better. Folks who make just one small tweak to their food choices or activity levels each week lost more weight and took more inches off their waist compared to those who tried to overhaul their routines, found a recent study published in the Annals of Behavioral Medicine. Of course, you can bring about positive changes in any area of your life using the small-change approach. Whether you're trying to eat better, move more, manage your stress, or strengthen your relationships, taking it one tiny tweak at a time is the key to real—and long-lasting—success. Here are 13 simple … [Read more...] about 13 Small Changes To Have Your Healthiest Year Ever In 2017
Couples who sleep in separate beds
My husband is an intelligent, hilarious, thoughtful man...whom I used to loathe as soon as he fell asleep each night. Why? He’s prone to snoring—the tectonic sort of snoring that would make the walls rattle if we were cartoon characters. As we’re all too real, it made us miserable instead: I lost sleep, he’d end up sore from the little kicks I’d deliver as I tried to get him to roll over, and we both woke up feeling wronged and resentful.It doesn’t take a scientist to tell you that snoring can wreak havoc on relationships, but research certainly backs it up: In a National Sleep Foundation poll, a whopping 50 percent of people who were at risk for sleep apnea (that is, they scored high on a questionnaire about snoring and daytime drowsiness) or who had a partner at risk for sleep apnea reported that it caused problems in their relationship. And 28 percent said that their intimate or sexual relationship had been affected because they were too sleepy. … [Read more...] about How I Got My Husband to Finally Stop Snoring
First Love You are the first, the only, the best, and I wish you all the luck in the world. I guess I just wished myself luck, since I will be with you — 4ever! I wrote that on page 108 of my high school sweetheart's yearbook under a photo of me, with Duran Duran hair, hugging her. The yellowing yearbook is in my possession now, which leads me to believe this was one of the items she tossed at my head when our relationship broke up that fall.dating game, and after dropping the L word hundreds of times, who is my first love? Turns out, she's the last person I dated: my wife, Diana. True love is like your first kidney stone. You can't possibly imagine what it feels like until it strikes you to the ground (I speak from experience, because I've passed enough kidney stones to pave a small driveway). After 10 minutes of talking to Diana, I knew that the knee-buckling, heart-throbbing, butterfly-inducing feeling I had was love. And since this is the only time I've felt that, I have to … [Read more...] about Men In Love
"I have three rules," she told me. We were standing outside, and a gentle mist surrounded us. I thought it was romantic. Just an hour earlier, at a bar, Maggie had pulled my head toward hers for a kiss while reaching into my lap and exploring. She noticed me squirming. This was a public place, after all. (Don't worry, all you Maggies I've actually dated; Maggie isn't her real name.) "Wow," she said. "You really pay attention to people around you, don't you?" "Um," I said. "I don't care when people watch," she said. "I think it makes it more exciting." "Um," I said again. What I thought was, "My poker buddies are not going to believe this!" I was on a second date with this stunning green-eyed brunette, a Broadway-dancer- turned-accountant who was sharing what I assumed were her sexual fantasies as she fondled my private parts.Now, as we waited for a cab, I suggested we go out a third time. "We'll see," Maggie said."Um," I said, yet again.That's when she shared her rules. "Number one," … [Read more...] about Lost in Lust
“Sex isn’t just about gratification,” I found myself explaining to my wife, Erin, one night. “It’s about overcoming your inhibitions and conquering fear and shame on behalf of a shared pleasure.”Stay with me, guys: This preamble was meant to lead to a list—our sexual goals—that I wanted us to write together.See, we had fallen into a routine, as couples sometimes do, and I consulted a sex therapist, who suggested this experiment as a way to break us out of it.But I couldn’t just assail my wife with such a list. We needed to have a discussion. So I did what any man would do: I went out and bought a fancy bottle of wine.Then I cooked Erin a gourmet meal, with plenty of salt to facilitate drinking. Pretty soon the wine was gone and we retired to the boudoir.Then I suggested, as casually as possible, that we make a few erotic resolutions. And with that we sat down, compared our lists, and uncorked a second bottle.Erin kicked things off. … [Read more...] about How One Married Couple Finally Got Out Of Their Sex Rut
Ever think that you'd be so much happier if you were the guy driving down the street in a car that costs as much as someone's house? Turns out, if you're getting quality Zs and have a happy sex life, you're the one winning, man. A new study has found the top indicators of happiness, and money doesn't even hit the top five. The study conducted by researchers from Oxford Economics and the National Centre for Social Research in Great Britain, asked 8,250 people of varying backgrounds to fill out a 60-question survey to determine what it means to "live well." The questions covered everything — from the state of an individual's sleep quality, finances, and job security to their relationships with friends, family and their community. And the results? They weren't what you'd expect.How She Checks You Out: The result was the creation of the Sainsbury’s Living Well Index, which generated a list of the top factors that separated the happiest 20 percent from everyone else. In … [Read more...] about Sex And Sleep Will Make You Happier Than Money Ever Could
When you find out that a couple sleeps in separate bedrooms, it’s easy to jump to the conclusion that their relationship is in hot water. But in a segment on Good Morning America that aired earlier this week, a man and a woman who have been married for a year and a half explained that having their own bedrooms is part of the reason they’re so happy. Having their own spaces helps them get their Zzz’s and not bother each other with their respective hobbies (in this case, guitar-playing and reading).“I love that idea that we love each other so much that we protect each other’s solitude,” the husband, Nate, told GMA.Relationship expert Michelle Callahan, Ph.D., appeared on the show and gave her thoughts on the idea: "I think this is becoming more common as people have more difficulty sleeping at night,” she said. “They’re just discovering, ‘Look, we love each other all the rest of the day. But when it's actually time to go to … [Read more...] about Do Happy Couples Ever Sleep in Separate Bedrooms?
Lots of us will have made a New Year's resolution to either lose weight or increase fitness levels for 2015. Unfortunately, more than 90% of us are likely to have given up 2 months in. If this sounds like you, then maybe you need a bit of encouragement; a sleep and activity tracker could do just that. Wearable health and fitness devices are all the rage right now. A recent report from Juniper Research claims that sales of the devices will triple by 2018, meaning almost 60 million of us will own one. But why are they in demand? In essence, it is because the gadgets can literally track your every move: how many steps you have taken, how long you have been sedentary, how many calories you have burned, how many hours sleep you have had, even how many times you awoke in the night. Not only is this information fun to pore over, it can help you take control of your health and fitness. The majority of sleep and activity trackers will allow you to set personal goals, which can encourage … [Read more...] about Sleep and activity trackers: which one is best for you?
And apparently, the quality of a relationship can be measured in the most private of places: the bedroom. But we’re not talking sex, here. Instead, a research team concluded that position and proximity during sleep can indicate how happy two people are within a relationship. Researchers surveyed more that 1,000 people about their sleep position and how happy they were in their relationship. It turned out that the closer they slept together, the happier they were. In fact, 86% of those who slept within one inch of each other reported being in happy relationships, while 94% who slept in constant contact reported a happy relationship. In comparison, people who slept further away from each other were less enthused about the quality of their relationships. Only 66% of respondents who slept at least 30 inches from each other said they were happy. Now, I wouldn’t put too much weight on the results of this study. After all, surveys are rarely reliable, and who really knows what … [Read more...] about How Sleep Position Could Improve the Quality of Your Relationship
Sleep is one of the most important things you do every day. The amount and quality of your sleep can have a drastic effect on your mood, productivity, and health. In today’s world, however, it’s very difficult to get a good night’s sleep. Easy access to cell phones, televisions, computer screens, and even just home lighting causes our sleep processes to function improperly. Almost 9 million people in the US take prescription sleep aids, and the problem appears to be getting worse. According to a 2009 study, prescription sleep aid use tripled among young adults from 1998 to 2006. Here are some sobering statistics released in a recent study by the CDC: About 4% of U.S. adults aged 20 and over used prescription sleep aids in the past month. The percentage of adults using a prescription sleep aid increased with age and education. More adult women (5.0%) used prescription sleep aids than adult men (3.1%). Non-Hispanic white adults were … [Read more...] about Losing Sleep? Berry Sleepy Provides a Natural Sleep Solution